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[[Eric Weinstein|Eric]] sits down with [ | [[Eric Weinstein|Eric]] sits down with [http://www.julielindahl.com Personal Julie Lindahl], author of "[http://www.julielindahl.com/the-pendulum.html The Pendulum]" ([https://www.amazon.com/Pendulum-Granddaughters-Search-Familys-Forbidden-ebook/dp/B07GGBTGSK#customerReviews amazon]). What happens when an ethnically German girl growing up in Brazil gets curious to finally make sense of her family history to stop the cycle of dysfunction? Julie Lindahl’s new book "The Pendulum" shows us what it can take to find a portal out of inter-generational trauma. Eric welcomes his house-guest Julie Lindahl to tell her extraordinary story on this episode of The Portal. The episode is raw and recorded at home on a hand held device; there will be no video. | ||
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'''Eric Weinstein 5:31 - ''' | '''Eric Weinstein 5:31 - ''' | ||
So your grandma was a was a Nazi to the end of a fairly long life | So your grandma was a was a Nazi to the end of a fairly long life | ||
'''Julie Lindhal 5:36 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 5:36 - ''' | ||
A 103 year life | A 103 year life | ||
'''Eric Weinstein 5:36 - ''' | '''Eric Weinstein 5:36 - ''' | ||
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'''Eric Weinstein 5:45 - ''' | '''Eric Weinstein 5:45 - ''' | ||
Oh, wow. So it's pretty amazing to think about it, there are Nazis in 2014 | Oh, wow. So it's pretty amazing to think about it, there are Nazis in 2014 | ||
'''Julie Lindhal 5:51 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 5:51 - ''' | ||
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'''Eric Weinstein 8:57 - ''' | '''Eric Weinstein 8:57 - ''' | ||
That's really an interesting conundrum that we can all worry about | That's really an interesting conundrum that we can all worry about but you've really been been through this where you're you realize that your deepest emotional and loyal, your your loyalty connections are running to people who are a mixture of pure evil and pure normal and goodness. I mean, you know, an educated family from from everything I can discern a family where there was love and caring, and then there's just this horrible festering, I don't know what even to call it. It's just some stain that can't be removed. | ||
'''Julie Lindhal 9:37 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 9:37 - ''' | ||
Yeah, absolutely. And which is why when I go out to schools and talk about this, I take out an image which is painted by an artist in Michigan called | Yeah, absolutely. And which is why when I go out to schools and talk about this, I take out an image which is painted by an artist in Michigan called chemo and it's a face that has many different surfaces and dimensions, and you can't really figure out where exactly the face is at some level. But the point is that there are many different facades. And that's what I learned, speaking with my grandmother and when I when I think about her today, but our conversations as time went by ended up troubling me a lot, and particularly my own reactions troubled me. I was also troubled by the fact that I was, was influenced by her perspective of Jewish people. Because, you know, she kind of imparted in various ways that Jewish people were dangerous to us, which was kind of a reaction of her generation because they were being punished for what they did in the Holocaust. But I didn't know that at that time, of course, and I did a number of kinds of crazy things to try to counteract that inheritance of mine to really dig deep into myself and blow the whistle and say, "Hey, that is a totally insane idea." Jewish people are not dangerous to you. | ||
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'''Julie Lindhal 11:19 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 11:19 - ''' | ||
I don't feel that way at all | I don't feel that way at all I feel very well taken care of. | ||
'''Eric Weinstein 11:25 - ''' | '''Eric Weinstein 11:25 - ''' | ||
So, do you think your mom knew a great deal of this history that you | So, do you think your mom knew a great deal of this history that you somehow were screened out of? Or do you think she she was also in the dark about it? Or even the idea of how much we know about our histories? Is that word too sharp and that there's some need for a kind of layered concept of knowing where you sort of know something but maybe you don't know. You don't keep a copy of it. That's too crisp in your mind, because it's too dangerous to have it in that state. What what's the right question I should be asking? | ||
'''Julie Lindhal 12:05 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 12:05 - ''' | ||
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'''Julie Lindhal 12:10 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 12:10 - ''' | ||
No, she didn't. I know that she didn't, and neither did her siblings, and neither did their mother. Because my grandfather went to war in the autumn of 1939. And first of all, not all of that is documented what those men did in Poland. Secondly, a lot of the documents were destroyed. Thirdly, they haven't seen any documents. I'm the one who has bothered to go and find the documents and read them | No, she didn't. I know that she didn't, and neither did her siblings, and neither did their mother. Because my grandfather went to war in the autumn of 1939. And first of all, not all of that is documented what those men did in Poland. Secondly, a lot of the documents were destroyed. Thirdly, they haven't seen any documents. I'm, I'm the one who has bothered to go and find the documents and read them and there were a lot of them. And so I probably know more than any family member because I've read primary documents, specifically about what my grandfather was doing and also just what people around him we're doing in the areas where he was | ||
'''Eric Weinstein 12:56 - ''' | '''Eric Weinstein 12:56 - ''' | ||
can you name your grandfather, so that we have a an individual | |||
'''Julie Lindhal 12:59 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 12:59 - ''' | ||
I just call him opa. I don't name his name because there are people who are alive who bear his last name and I don't want to make their lives difficult. | I just call him opa. I don't name his name because the people are there are people who are alive who bear his last name and I, I don't I don't want to make their lives difficult. | ||
'''Eric Weinstein 13:11 - ''' | '''Eric Weinstein 13:11 - ''' | ||
So opa for the purposes of this podcast | So opa for the purposes of this podcast. | ||
'''Julie Lindhal 13:13 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 13:13 - ''' | ||
Yes. And as to these layers, I think you're right, very right there. In my experience for the sake of the family unit you look away from certain very glaring facts. I did that. I think my mother and her siblings did that. The family has been our most important unit of survival since forever, and so that's probably a natural knee jerk type of thing to do. I think my | Yeah. Yes. And as to these layers, I think you're right, very right there. In my experience for the sake of the family unit, you look away from certain very glaring facts. I did that. I think my mother and her siblings did that. The family has been our most important unit of survival since forever, and so that's probably a natural knee jerk type of thing to do. I think my or I know that my family knew that my grandfather was in the SS, because later on I met an uncle. So he was the oldest of the siblings. I met him in Paraguay. | ||
'''Eric Weinstein 14:12 - ''' | '''Eric Weinstein 14:12 - ''' | ||
So he | So he, you opa not only volunteered in 1939, but went straight for the SS. | ||
'''Julie Lindhal 14:20 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 14:20 - ''' | ||
He joined the SS back in 1934 already | He was he joined the SS back in 1934 already | ||
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'''Julie Lindhal 14:25 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 14:25 - ''' | ||
So he joined the mounted SS | So he joined the mounted SS I think what you should remember is that the SS and 34 was a political primarily political organization. And the buffin ss are the military wing of the SS emerged out of this as the 30s went on. But he joined as one of Hitler's political soldiers and specifically the mounted SS in 1934. Mainly because, well, the mounted SS was very prestigious. The organization was also, the mountain SS was created of riding associations that were drafted into the organization. So, you, some people argue that they didn't have a choice, but it's more complicated than that. But so he, he was pumped full of propaganda throughout the 1930s, because he was a member of the SS throughout. so that by the time he got into Poland, he was really quite full of it. And, you know, Hitler and Himmler and the other Nazi leaders didn't really give very precise instructions to the SS when they went into Poland. Because they trusted that they pumped these people so full of propaganda that if they just unleashed them, they would fight a very brutal racial war, which is exactly what they did, | ||
'''Eric Weinstein 15:50 - ''' | '''Eric Weinstein 15:50 - ''' | ||
and with no documents indicating that they've been instructed to do so. So that in part, I think this has a lot of relevance for today. So let's just go there. One way of making sure that your fingerprints aren't on something is to pump people fill full pump people full of ideology. And then we know enough about how ideology sits in the human mind to know what's likely to happen next. I mean, there's you know, this famous example from history of the king saying, "will, no one rid me of this troublesome priest", he doesn't have to give an order to execute he just has to say this idely to himself and then he knows what happens and then there is no record. So in effect, there is no trigger, pulling finger from the Central Command | |||
'''Julie Lindhal 16:44 - ''' | '''Julie Lindhal 16:44 - ''' | ||
No. And this is also reflected in the way my grandfather and others who had a similar role as he had, as the war went on in occupied Poland | No. And this is also reflected in the way my grandfather and others others who had a similar role as he had, as the war went on in occupied Poland is reflected in the way they behaved.Because he became engaged in a mission set by the Ministry of Agriculture, so the, under the Third Reich to transform West Central Poland to the breadbasket of the Third Reich, because he was trained estate manager, he knew something about agriculture. And that can sound benign. What it in fact means is deporting or murdering the existing landowners, enslaving the local laborers and murdering anyone who's slightly troublesome and torturing people on a more or less daily basis. Early on in the war, Himmler passed a law which established that these estate managers were the law in their estates. There was no higher law over them. It's exactly what you were saying. It's a law that says I don't need to know | ||
Do do what you have to do. | |||
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Yes. | Yes. | ||
Okay, so here you are a young woman who has grown up in this unusual developmental environment. You're you went to college with my wife. You guys knew each other, perhaps vaguely, and you're living this very modern American existence at that time. How How is this playing out? I mean, America, you know, American father, you're an American college. You're somehow also the granddaughter of an SS member. Who has. You have an inkling at this point that your grandfather's done unspeakable things in Poland or not? | |||
Okay, so here you are a young woman who has grown up in this unusual developmental environment. You went to college with my wife. You guys knew each other, perhaps vaguely, and you're living this very modern American existence at that time. How is this playing out? I mean, America, you know, American father, you're | |||
Not so much at Wellesley. I didn't think about it so much, although I was very affected by it. Because these types of secrets when they're this heavy, | Not so much at Wellesley. I didn't think about it so much, although I was very affected by it. Because these types of secrets when they're when they're this heavy, | ||
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Okay. | Okay. | ||
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Yeah. I mean, I was very sick. When I was at Wellesley | Yeah. I mean, I was very sick. When I was at Wellesley. I didn't eat most of the time. And so that was the way it expressed itself there. In fact, Pia and I worked out that we didn't see each other that much, probably because I was hiding out a lot from people because I, I had pretty serious eating disorders. But these were all connected to a feeling of low self worth that were connected to the shame that I went around with, so I knew that there was something wrong. My relationship with my mother was extremely troubled. And as the years went by our family relationships, in fact, all of them became quite troubled. Because when you have something like this in the family that the adults knew something about, they didn't know the whole story, but they knew enough and that they try to keep from themselves. It's not so much they're keeping it from the next generation. They're trying to keep it away from themselves because they don't want to think about it. Then it starts to strangle their relationships. And that was already going on at that time. And that affected me at a cellular level. And so, when I returned to Europe, remember I only spent three years going to college in the US that was my American experience. | ||
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And this is what needs to happen everywhere where it can, especially among individuals, who have quite a lot of hurdles to jump in order to, you know, who, who, where there are a lot of a lot of emotional, difficult emotional feelings that you need to overcome in order to strengthen that bond. This is has also been true for me in my interactions with the Islamic community. I've been approached by people from the Islamic community, who know that there has to be Holocaust education in their communities, but who also know that their communities will not welcome hearing it from a Jewish person or you know, a descendant of a Holocaust survivor, which is terrible. It's not always the case. But it is the case sometimes, because there are lots of Descendants of Holocaust survivors who generously give their time to go around speaking about what happened to their parents and grandparents in the Holocaust, but often, at least what I have encountered in Sweden is that in in a number of Islamic communities, it's they just can't. They can't emotionally break through. They can't get over the hurdles, they can't sit down, | And this is what needs to happen everywhere where it can, especially among individuals, who have quite a lot of hurdles to jump in order to, you know, who, who, where there are a lot of a lot of emotional, difficult emotional feelings that you need to overcome in order to strengthen that bond. This is has also been true for me in my interactions with the Islamic community. I've been approached by people from the Islamic community, who know that there has to be Holocaust education in their communities, but who also know that their communities will not welcome hearing it from a Jewish person or you know, a descendant of a Holocaust survivor, which is terrible. It's not always the case. But it is the case sometimes, because there are lots of Descendants of Holocaust survivors who generously give their time to go around speaking about what happened to their parents and grandparents in the Holocaust, but often, at least what I have encountered in Sweden is that in in a number of Islamic communities, it's they just can't. They can't emotionally break through. They can't get over the hurdles, they can't sit down, | ||
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No, no, it's us doing the hard work the book, people is the pendulum. Check it out. The author is Julie Lindhal. You've been listening to us discuss this important work and this important book. So thanks for coming through the portal with Julie and please remember to subscribe to the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Be that Stitcher, Spotify, Apple. Or if you listen on YouTube, make sure to subscribe and click the bell so you'll be let known whenever we drop our next episode. | No, no, it's us doing the hard work the book, people is the pendulum. Check it out. The author is Julie Lindhal. You've been listening to us discuss this important work and this important book. So thanks for coming through the portal with Julie and please remember to subscribe to the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Be that Stitcher, Spotify, Apple. Or if you listen on YouTube, make sure to subscribe and click the bell so you'll be let known whenever we drop our next episode. | ||